Top Ten First Date Questions


A first date can be so very exciting and the beginning of something really special, but it can also be very nerve-wracking. This is your opportunity to test how compatible you could potentially be together, let’s not waste it!!

The aim of these tips are to get a flavour of what the other person is like in a light hearted way without being too serious, no one wants to feel like a date is getting to intense.  With that in mind, here are some questions to help you both to get to know one another little bit better, happy questioning.

1.    Compliment the other person

It is important to make the person you are spending time with to know that you have noticed them and you have found something nice to say, we all have lovely aspects of us. 

Ask them a question about something they are wearing, even if it does not fit your style!


2.  How far did the person come to see you and where do they live?

Enquire where the person is from and have they travelled far to come to see you. Ask them about where they live, be curious., allow the other person the opportunity to open up about themselves and vice versa.  A good way to be ‘nosy’ without the other person feeling interrogated!

3. The travel question, where have they been and would like to visit?

This is a good way to find out how cultured your date is and a good way to identify if they like and share the same passions as you do, or not as they case may be!


4. Do you have a ‘bucket list’?

Ask your date about what they are passionate about in terms of having new experiences and do any of these experiences match anything you would like to try? What have they already achieved anything from their ‘bucket list’?  Let’s face it, if they say they want to bungie jump off the Shard it may not be something you would like to join them in doing! 

6. How do they like to spend their time?

Lifestyle is a quite a big factor in any relationship. Ask your date about how they like to fill their time, are they constantly on the go or are they the more of the chilled out type? This could help you gauge if your diaries are compatible!

7. What do you do and what is the best thing about your job?

This can end up being a detailed discussion that may need lighting up. It’s important to be curious and ask them about the positive aspects their job, once you understand what the person does first of course! 

8. What’s your happiest memory?

What better way to create a personal connection than to open up to one another about a nice memory that you have experienced and can share with that person.  Again it’s important to be curious, showing a real interest in your dates happy memories is a sure fire way to connect on a deeper level.

9. What is the scariest thing you have ever done?

Again stay light hearted, as you do not want to scare your date to death either, but create a sense of sharing stories with each other in order to build that connection.  Connection is key!

10. Where do you want to be this time next year?

As with the first date questions above, this works for building a picture of who your date is as a person. It is important to demonstrate to the other that you are a good listener and are able to share information about yourself.Who wants a cold fish!